OVERCOMING A HEARTBREAK

Starting a relationship can be a joyful experience filled with optimism and expectations. It is easy to forget that even though we should stay determined and open, we should also remind ourselves that "WE WERE" even before the relationship existed.

Its is imperative that while in the relationship we do not loose our "Core" so that we are able to leave when the relationship no longer serves us.

Furthermore, should the relationship not yield its desired outcome, we need to give ourselves time and to be kind to ourselves. It is not weird to still think about someone who meant something to you. You are human. You are not wrong for experiencing pain and for remembering the lessons learnt and memorable experiences while in that relationship.

So, do those things you enjoy doing (gym, girls's night outs, dining etc) while you are single, when you are in the relationship and even when the relationship ends. Do not get stuck in wanting closure because the information you want when someone ends things with you may not add any value to you and your future. If someone does not want to be in a relationship with you, they cannot be the person for YOU. And if he/ she calls or texts you, you say "hey, listen, it is not good for me now to have this communication because I am trying to build a life."

The brave way to overcome heartbreak is to accept that you are disappointed, but do not grieve as though they were the 'One'.

BERNICE MALEBO LUFUMPA

082 389 6356

Pertinacity Counselling Centre

1239 Francis Baard & Gordon Street,

Hatfield ,Pretoria